DATING WITH CHILDREN
The traditional family is beginning to become extinct. The high rate of single mothers, fatherless children and divorces have risen to an all-time high. A traditional family is ideal but highly unlikely. It’s very rare to find a man/woman who does not have children already! But, if you are fortunate to find someone single, straight and with no children, you’re blessed. I mean really blessed.
Of course, it was never God’s intent for a child(ren) to have two sets of parents, and to have to share holidays and birthdays. But there is hope, God can use any traditional or non-traditional family. So if you are dating and you have children or you are open to dating someone with children, here are a few things to observe and take in consideration.
1.) Before you date or marry her/him with child(ren), make sure you pray about it first. Matthew 1:20, God sent an angel to tell Joseph to take pregnant Mary as his own even though he wasn't the father!
2.) You can’t date or marry someone who does not have the same spiritual convictions as you. You must be equally yoked. Instead of becoming a partnership, your relationship will become a war.
3.) They’re a packaged deal. You can’t love him/her, but hate there child(ren). This should not be tolerated at all.
4.) If you are single and you don't want to date someone with child(ren), you are not wrong that's your preference.
5.) In any relationship you have to know what you can handle and what you can’t handle!
6.) It’s better to be alone than to marry wrong.
7.) Believe the red flags that God shows you. Sometimes your friends aren’t hating on you, they see somethings you can’t see because you are blinded by wanting to be married.
8.) Being Alone is just a season, it is not a life sentence. Gen. 2:8 Then the Lord God said, “it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
9.) Your Destiny can be denied if you marry the wrong person!
10.) If you do marry the wrong person, it may not had been God’s will for you to get married but it is his will for you to stay married. Because you made a covenant before God and he honors marriage.